My brother and his wife had a new little baby boy yesterday…the same day that one of our dear patients lost her husband. In our meeting today, Cinda shared a story about Mitchell, a young boy that died of muscular dystrophy, and then gave us the good news about her nephew that is miraculously recovering from a serious accident. It’s been a day of giving and taking, and I’m realizing that life does a lot of both.
Do you ever feel like you are on a ship on the water, rising and falling with the waves? Whether up or down, you don’t get to choose…the waves do the choosing. That’s how I’ve been feeling lately. A little out of control, a little seasick, and quite wet from riding the waves of life. Why is it that there is so much give and take, so much up and down? I really think I would enjoy calm seas once in awhile!
Well, tonight my daughter calmed the waves and helped set me back on course. She has been having some struggles with her gut lately, and it intensified tonight. She was in tears most of the night, and asked me why she had to deal with this. I’ve been frustrated as well. It seems like everything I try should be helping, and it hasn’t helped. I don’t like that – I like to fix things! I was at my wits end too, and told her maybe it was time she prayed about it. Sweet girl that she is, she said she had been praying every day. Well, that was my last idea, so I told her to go finish her homework and we would figure it out later. (Yes, I don’t win the good mom award tonight.)
She finished her homework, then laid down on the couch with a blanket. I was hoping she would go to sleep and that would help, so I stayed quiet. She burrowed under the blanket and stayed for awhile, then got up and told me she didn’t hurt anymore, and she felt completely better. This was wonderful! I told her laying down had probably helped, and she said, “No mom, that wasn’t it. I said a prayer over and over while I was under the blanket, and then it all went away.”
My daughter had to teach me about who is in control of the waves. It’s not me, whether I like it or not. But someone is in control. That gives me hope. That’s what I wanted to share with you today- hope for the future. Hope for a better day. Hope for calm seas. Here are two of my favorite “Hope” quotes:
Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don’t give up. ~ Anne Lamott
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. ~ Epicurus
Despite my complaints, I wouldn’t appreciate the calm if I didn’t have a rough day once in awhile. As we are approaching Thanksgiving, I’m going to work on being thankful for the ups and the downs, for the gives and the takes. I am thankful for what I’m learning on my voyage here, and am thankful for little ones that bless my life and help me see things more clearly. May you all have a wonderful holiday season, and may you be at peace with your waves.
Dr. Michelle Jorgensen
PS This month we are highlight men’s health awareness, so men, schedule for your free oral cancer screenings today!